Won’t anyone think of the STRAIGHT MEN ;_;
Ladies and queer dudes, you just DON’T UNDERSTAND the pain, the discomfort,…
I actually agree with most of what you said, and as I started thinking about it, I realized that they actually probably SHOULD make it where a character of the same gender confesses their attraction. It would bring up an interesting ethical question to the player (Do I still feel comfortable around this person? Do I accept their attraction? Etc.) and allows them to explore themselves in a deeper manner. Also, it is something that will happen in real life, so yeah.
I also think it’s stupid that some people want to put a toggle at the beginning of the game. Choosing NPC’s sexuality is stupid, and not what I was supporting. I was supporting the idea of making double-extra-triple sure not to have an easily activated romance with them, like you sometimes can in ME1 (haven’t had it happen to me personally, but I hear a lot of fans complain about how they “accidently” chose Ashley/Kaiden over Liara), which I’m sure that Bioware has realized and is double checking.
Eh, I think most people just aren’t comfortable enough in their sexuality to be forced to answer questions like that. Don’t assume all of them are anti-gay bigots, some might just not really be sure enough of their sexuality and it could be a point of contention for them. I know that, if approached by this situation a few years ago, it would’ve made me BEYOND uncomfortable, as I repressed my attraction towards men.
tl;dr I’m stupid
Even if every single one of the guys opposing queer romance in ME3 or campaigning for a NO HOMO toggle was closeted or struggling with their sexuality it wouldn’t mean that their anti-queer attitudes aren’t… anti-queer attitudes. I say this as someone who has loads of personal experience with the anger and confusion and touchiness that comes with trying to figure yourself out: most of what drives that is internalized homophobia and bigoted anti-queer attitudes. It doesn’t make you an inherently bad person. It doesn’t mean you can’t work through it and improve. But the water is poisoned. The reason that people like us struggle(d) with that shit is because society and our environments impart those problematic views to us.
I sympathize with anyone who’s trying to deal with all of that. It’s hard as hell. But that doesn’t mean I’m not going to point out and address and properly label speech and actions that are damaging as the bigoted, hateful garbage that they are. That wouldn’t help anyone.